A-Z Pregnancy Series -J
Babies bring so much joy. Their smell, their sweet faces, their little sounds, kissable toes. But when society as a whole discusses the process of bringing them from womb to earthside there are very mixed reactions and many of them negative.
Particularly now in this time of a pandemic I felt it was important to focus on fostering a sense of joy for labor and birth and appreciation of how our body and our baby work together in order for baby to be born.
Birth is work! My work as a hypnodoula has brought me the mindset to view it as hard work but a work that can be enjoyable. Just as someone puts for the effort to accomplish any great feat or hard work, like running a marathon or climbing a mountain, or finishing a degree, there is work involved but also a sense of joy and accomplishment.
“It’s hard to describe if you’ve never been there, but to watch a woman access her full power as a woman to give birth is awe-inspiring, and I never get tired of being witness to it. It’s an honor to watch that transformation take place.” Julie Bates, CNM
What are some ways to increase a sense of joy leading up to the time of birth? Acknowledge there will be work involved, the very word labor is defined as productive work from Vocabulary.com. What could be more productive than toiling to birth your baby? Your work has a purpose and that work will end with your baby being in your arms.
I will welcome my baby in peace and joy.
We are designed to give birth to babies. About 360,000 babies are born every day in the world. You can do this. You will do it. You are not alone.
Countless women have given birth before me. Their courage and strength are with me.
What about during the birth process itself?
Stay in the moment. Take each phase as it comes. Welcome each surge, each contraction. Some of you might think this sounds a little far fetched but really try to embrace the process. It has to do with that retraining of the mind. With every squeezing of your uterus you are getting closer to your baby being born. Your baby is working with you also, moving into certain positions, feeling the contractions too.
Good strong contractions will help me meet my baby.
“Remember that each labor contraction is caused by a wave of oxytocin coursing through your body. So, very literally, each birthing surge is a surge of love. Allow yourself to meet each surge with the same warmth, intimacy and acceptance that you would experience during a kiss or a loving embrace.” Lauralyn Curtis
What about people who require a cesarean or have their birth plan change? You too can receive your baby with joy. Joy that we have the medical technology to keep you and your baby safe. Joy that in most cases partners are able to be in the operating room for support and to see their baby be born. Joy that you are a strong and wonderful mother.
“The strength that is displayed in labor and birth is something that no one can EVER take from you in your life. Elixir of courage.” –Desirre Andrews
May you find joy during your pregnancy and during your birth! If you would like more information please look into Hypnobabies a complete childbirth course focused on a peaceful joyful birth.
*A caveat- Birth trauma is real. This blog is not intended to discuss or diminish birth trauma. Its intent and purpose is to foster a sense of joy and share birth affirmations. Should you or someone you know be struggling with birth trauma please reach out to a professional.
Kimberly Sebeck, Knoxville Doula
All Rights Reserved 2020