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Important information for every woman, whether you have given birth by cesarean or vaginally, whether you have had no children of many. Hysterectomy is the most common non-obstetrical procedure for women in our country. Approximately 600,000 are performed each year in the U.S. 1 in 9 women will have one. It’s time for us to focus on our pelvic floor health.

August ICAN of Knoxville Meeting — Pelvic Floor Health

Please join us to hear our guest speaker, Autumn Synowiez, OT, speak to us about our pelvic floor health. Whether you are planning to get pregnant, are pregnant, or have birthed your babies in the past — we can all benefit from good pelvic floor health. Those with diastasis recti, perineal repairs, and cesareans will especially benefit from this information.

Meetings are FREE, however we gratefully accept donations for our local 501c Non Profit Chapter. (suggested donation $1-$3)

Partners and children are welcome for most of our meetings. We respectfully ask that if your child is needing a quiet moment that you step out if needed.

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A Glimpse Into Postpartum Work

I have been doing quite a bit of postpartum doula-ing lately. More clients request my birth services but I really enjoy being hired to do postpartum work, too. Sometimes people are not as familiar with what a postpartum doula does, or doesn’t do.

My services are really quite flexible and dependent on what each family needs. Some moms have me come over and basically “pick my brain” about feeding the baby, newborn care, postpartum recovery, infant milestones,  etc., and that consumes the majority of my block of time. I choose to come over to a home for a minimum of 3 hours but it can certainly be longer. Other moms understand how important rest is and feel safe and relaxed enough with me watching over their new baby so they can go take a blissful long nap, with maybe a shower thrown in. Other families want to soak in every second of the newborn period with their baby and I do errands and simple household tasks. I also attend doctor visits like the first pediatrician appointment or a postpartum visit for the new mom.

I don’t do heavy cleaning. It’s far less expensive to hire a housekeeper than a postpartum doula. I do light tasks: loading the dishwasher, laundry, running errands, sterilizing breast pumps and/or bottles, putting together infant gadgets like monitors and swings, making a snack for mom or starting a meal for dinner. Speaking of dinner, I actually love to cook for my families especially if I am going to be there for a good amount of hours for the day. I give them a list of recipes that I am familiar with and good at and let them send me to the store or give them a list of ingredients to pick up. Imagine how good it sounds to have a knowledgeable person come over to answer newborn questions, perform household tasks, and then be able to enjoy my now famous chicken and dumplings or a refreshing summer salad. If the partner has already returned to work they can come home and focus on bonding and family time instead of working all day and then coming home to a list of things to do.

Frequently the question comes up of: what will we do for 3 hours? Once I am there and a mom sees how wonderful and valuable a postpartum doula is they often request more hours in a day. It might seem awkward at first to have someone in your home but that feeling quickly dissipates. I can be the person you confide in when you’re having some “baby blues” or postpartum mood disorders and I have the resources of where to get help. I can be the person who helps you ease into motherhood without any judgment. I can give suggestions about trying to get enough sleep, how to soothe sore nipples, and also dispel some of the misinformation given out by family, friends, and online sites. Having trouble figuring out your K’Tan or Moby? I will help you practice so you feel confident wearing your baby. Those sheets you have been sweating in, bleeding on, and leaking breastmilk into? I can change those out for fresh ones.

I will help you find your way to being the best parent in the manner that suits your lifestyle. One day you will be the one telling me what the baby needs and that is exactly how being a postpartum doula works. I work myself out of a job as you grow into parenthood and recover through the fourth trimester.

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All Rights Reserved, Knoxville Doula, Kimberly Sebeck 2016

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New Moms Are Fragile — Handle With Care

Occasionally a memory surfaces from the first few days following my daughter’s birth. My friend had traveled a few hours to visit us and she was holding the baby while I got a few tasks done. One of these things was the delicious feeling of trying on clothes with waistbands and seeing what could be used as breastfeeding friendly attire.

I pulled out a red floral romper and wondered if I dared try it on. Why not? I had recently reveled in my curvy body with my full breasts and for the first time had felt womanly. My body had not only grown a baby but was able to nourish this child. On went the romper. It fit differently, yes. My stomach was soft and full from where my baby had grown and only recently exited. My breasts were much larger and my thighs and hips were softer, or perhaps had spread? No matter about that, I was exuding a happy post birth high and I practically bounced out to show off my Spring outfit to my friend. Her face did not reflect the same happiness I felt. She paused and said, “You know, you don’t look bad for just having had a baby.”

Ouch. I went back to my bedroom and put on my big t shirt and some shorts.

Please know that this is a wonderfully supportive friend of mine. She had zero intention of making me feel bad. I am also aware that we can only feel inferior from someone’s words if we give our consent. This event occurred nearly 20 years ago and much has been done in the world to embrace how our bodies change during the pregnant and postpartum period . But I still think about it.

Because I was fragile.

Everything was new. My baby, a blessed addition to our family, was still a new experience. My body had gone through immense changes in the last few days and for months prior. Sleeping patterns (if I dare call it that) were new. Breastfeeding, accompanied by the joys of oxytocin and the navigation of sore nipples and leaking breasts was new. Baby blues that manifested as crying into a bowl of cornflakes at 4 am was new. The absolute and raw love I felt looking at my child was new.  Being a mother and all that comes with that was new.

So my advice to everyone is to build up a new mom. “You look amazing!” works well. Some other suggestions are:

I love the way you look at your baby.
You are handling this postpartum period perfectly.
How can I help you while I am here?
Can I run any errands for you?
The female body is miraculous/magical.
Motherhood looks beautiful on you.
I am interested in how you are feeling (then listen).

For new moms it’s also okay to have a sense of humor at some of your new experiences or at the wayward comments from people. I look back and laugh at the crying in the cornflakes experience and have told the story many times as humor. I have the perspective of looking back and not only realizing that I survived new motherhood experiences but I also enjoyed them and miss them.  Except for the sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation can remain a long ago memory.

Revel in your fragility. Revel in the new experiences. You are caring for a new human, your baby, and that is immensely beautiful.

My daughter and I visiting family– she is about a week old. 1551555_10203038651304231_472403165_nAll Rights Reserved, Kimberly Sebeck, AKA Knoxville Doula, 2016

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New Class — Your Fourth Trimester

Find Tickets Here

Event Description

The Fourth Trimester — this class will cover transitioning your baby from the womb to the world, caring for your postpartum self, therapeutic exercises to help heal after birth, developmental milestones, and much more.

Through my training and experience in the NICU and pediatric population as an OT, I have gathered different techniques and knowledge I cannot wait to share with you and your growing family!

Wear something comfortable! Bring any snacks and water for yourself. There’s a kitchen you can use as well.

There will be hands on practice and
exercises!

$75/couple
$60 early bird special if registered before February 6th.

Donate a ticket to a couple that would love to go!

Taught by Autumn Synowiez, OTR/L

WHEN
Saturday, February 20, 2016 from 9:00 AM to 12:30 PM (EST) Add to Calendar
WHERE
Knoxville Doula – 1400 N 6th Ave, Ste D5 Knoxville, Tennessee 37917 Knoxville, Tn 37917 –View Map
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Be Gentle

Let’s remember that people are real behind the computer screen. Often I see a new mom added to a group that is about peaceful parenting/breastfeeding/natural parenting  only to become so intimidated by the know-it-alls that they are scared to ask a question, or someone does post in a group that they parent a different way than the majority (bottle feeding, sleep training, etc.) and then others “pile on”. What does “pile on” mean? It means not only do several people jump on the thread to tell someone how wrong they are but they will go as far as to message or tag other people to come tell a new, frightened parent how wrong  (in their opinion) she is. Do you think she will hear the message? Or do you instead think she will feel ganged up upon and leave the group without gaining any of the valuable information there? Would a crowd of strangers encircle a new, struggling, vulnerable mother in an actual room and say the things said on a computer?

Be gentle. Be extra gentle with new parents. Aren’t we trying to teach them to be gentle with their babies?

All Rights Reserved, Knoxville Doula, 2015

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New Postpartum “Baby Basics” Classes offered at Knoxville Birth Resource Center!

One of a kind postpartum classes now offered by Delighted Doula!
Proudly announcing Knoxville’s one of a kind postpartum class “Baby Basics”!
Baby Basics is a fun, interactive, hands-on class that will help to prepare and educate expectant parents. Taught by Delighted Doula’s owner and CAPPA certified postpartum doula Amber Chamblee, this will be a class that any and all expectant parents won’t want to miss! Follow the link below to learn more and pre-register. http://www.delighteddoula.com/baby-basics/

There are currently 2 dates available in July — click the link for more info and to pre-register!

 

Knoxville Birth Resource Center is at 428 E. Scott Avenue, Suite 100, Knoxville, TN 37917